No, this isn’t about the Babylon 5 bookclub. Rather, it’s about Russell’s post and Kazzy’s recent comment on watching TV with and around spousal units (I can’t remember which post it is attached to.
Clancy doesn’t like television. Historically, anyway, she’s hated it. It goes back to some old family issues and her love of reading. It’s only after having married me that she has begun to appreciate that there are at least some TV shows out there that aren’t crap.
Which is great! Because now, she doesn’t think less of me for watching television. The downside is that (a) she still hates a lot of it and (b) she really likes some of it. This means I have to do a balancing act when she’s around. Because often, she’s trying to do notes and charts while I am watching a program. She hates laughtracks and finds them extremely distracting. She also doesn’t like hokey humor (which often coincides with laugh tracks). Dramas are okay, except that they can be a bit problematic when they are too obviously manipulative. Which does this thing where they grab her attention, and not in the terrible way that laughtrack comedies do, but not in a good way where she feels okay about being distracted.
So on the one hand, I try to avoid things that are going to distract her. She has a lot on her plate and it isn’t helpful to her getting things done. She would prefer that I be in the same room with her, even if I am watching TV, so I don’t want to go to the other room, but it has to be just the right flavor so that I am not keeping her from her work. (I should note here that she never gets angry with me about this. I just don’t want to do it.)
On the other end of the spectrum are shows that she starts to really like. This becomes a problem because she gets upset with me if I start watching it without her. But she has so little time to watch anything, if I wait until she has time, I’ll never actually get to see it. I’m 1.5 seasons behind on Homeland, two seasons behind on Good Wife, and I still haven’t seen the end of Rubicon.