Hey, why would someone like me be more invested in building a legal defense of gay marriage specifically and a larger lattice of rights to defend gay people generally? Why, maybe because of things like girls getting kicked out of their private high schools because the administration of said high school believes them to be lesbians.
This is why I am concerned with legality, rights and government first. Because right now, today, gay people are the subject of explicit, systematic discrimination. As we have said several times, these are of course connected phenomena, and I want to change both law and culture. But the difference between cultural change and legal change is that, while a lack of cultural change might have left these two young women the subject of social ostracism, they would still have been in school, getting their degrees along with every other student at that school. As it stands, they were kicked out and can now only appeal for restitution after the fact. Similarly, while a legal right to marriage won’t change the neighbors next door who quietly hate their gay, married neighbors, it will leave gay husbands and wives with access to their spouses medical insurance, improved tax status, guarantees to their spouses property in the probation of a will, improved claims to custody of a spouse’s children in the event of death….
The push for gay marriage is not some philosophical flight of fancy; it’s not some airy concern to be hashed out in the mind alone. It has consequences, major consequences, for thousands or even millions of people, and every day the lack of a legal institution of marriage creates hardbreak and headaches for gay people.