So, turns out I have a bit more to say on the etiquette of feeding children in certain ways in public.
So my husband and I have debated whether it’s acceptable to tube-feed our kid in public. We’ve basically settled on yes for convenience’s sake. Otherwise, we couldn’t take our kid anywhere. It’s not something I really wanted to make a stand about. But part of what allowed us to settle on yes is that we’re lucky. Our kid’s tube-feeding can be done very discreetly. Most people who are unfamiliar with tube-feeding have no idea it’s going on. A small backpack reasonably similar to the one pictured here hangs on his chair or wheelchair. The tube comes out of the bag as you see (we allow less slack), and we thread it up through his pants underneath his clothes. The pump makes practically no noise.
This couple was not so lucky (assuming The Scottish Sun is a semi-reputable publication). There are lots of different kinds of tube feeding. Apparently, their kid’s tube feeding is noisy and visible. And they were asked to leave a coffee shop because it was bothering customers. Now here’s the thing. I’d probably be uncomfortable feeding my kid in public if it were noisy and visible. I’m not saying I should feel uncomfortable, but I probably would. I still don’t want to make a stand. But I get so viscerally, horribly upset that this couple was kicked out of the coffee shop.