I feel cruel seeing my dog sleeping, whimpering and shaking while she dreams of something she fears. I want to comfort and love her, to assure her that it’s all okay, her people are here and will protect her, there is no predator chasing her and there is food to eat. But she needs sleep, too, and even on days I’m not working at home, I know that she sleeps and dreams like this. It’s better to leave her be, heartbreaking as it is.
How much worse for parents of actual human children, who have to see their kids go through unpleasant experiences, and let the pain happen because there’s no other way for the child to learn. Hats off to parents and may your children grow happy again soon.